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Are You Worried About Your Sex Life?

Are you too embarrassed to talk about intimacy issues with your friends, who all seem to be having the best sex ever?
You might worry that it’s too weird to bring up with your doctor.
Do sexual images from advertisements or movies remind you of your dissatisfaction?
Are you tired of coming up with excuses to avoid having sex because you experience lack of desire, painful intercourse or maybe you can’t orgasm?
Are you embarrassed that it’s been years since you had partnered sex? Maybe you’re an adult virgin, and you’re afraid to go on dates because you lack experience.
Are you afraid to pursue a relationship because you’re worried that a sexual disorder or having suffered past sexual trauma might be too difficult and could lead to rejection?
Are you LGBTQ+, polyamorous, intersex, asexual, into kink, BDSM, or any form of sex you consider part of a healthy, consensual sexual experience, and don’t want waste time educating your therapist; or, are you afraid they give you lip-service, assume they know what you need, or judge you?

Experiencing a lack of sexual fulfillment during any stage of life can be an isolating, overwhelming and troubling experiencing, regardless of whether you’re single, polyamorous or in a monogamous coupled relationship. When sex just isn’t working, it’s uncomfortable and may even lead you to believe there is something wrong with you.

If you’re single, perhaps you doubt you’ll ever be sexually compatible with someone else. Or, maybe feelings of shame and body or intimacy issues have prevented you from connecting with someone special. If you’re partnered, you may feel disconnected from him/her/them, both emotionally and physically.

If you’ve experienced sexual trauma or assault in the past, that can dramatically alter sex drive, and leave you feeling unsafe, confused or out of control. If your performance and/or enjoyment of sex needs improvement or is affected by a sexual dysfunction or sexual trauma, you may desperately desire new options and a safe way to explore them.

Sexual Issues Are VERY Common

If you are experiencing problems with intimacy, sexuality or sexual performance, you are not alone. Because the topic of sex is highly stigmatized in the United States -- we are all accustomed to messages about how sexuality should be expressed, as well as the type of sex that’s considered normal—these issues can be challenging to discuss with friends and family. Limited perspectives about sexuality cause countless people to feel ashamed of their desires.

The truth is there are few set criteria for optimal sexuality. It’s very common to experience fluctuations in sexual satisfaction, expression and identity over the course of a lifetime. And, even if you have found someone special, the sex may not always be great. Less than half of all sexual experiences are equally satisfying for each partner. 5-15 percent of sexual encounters between compatible sexual partners is disappointing for at least one partner.

Stress can also impact a wide variety of things, including mental and physical health, which can both affect sex drive—the desire to have sex often plummets during times of high pressure, conflict and/or illness. Some people don't feel aroused until well after starting a sexual activity, and you don't necessarily have to feel intimately connected to have an orgasm.

The good news is that regardless of your age, gender, ethnicity, size, ability, orientation, religion and whatever sexual issues you may be encountering, counseling can help awaken and foster a passion that is uniquely your own.

Sex Therapy for Couples OR Individuals Can Help You Realize Your Sexual Potential

While many people feel uncomfortable or embarrassed when they first talk about sexual issues, getting to the root of the problem and working to resolve your pain can not only improve your sex life but can also strengthen the bond in your relationships and improve your overall health and wellbeing. With the guidance of an experienced sex therapist, you can clarify your concerns and their cause and embark on a healthy path toward recovery and joy.

If you and/or your partner(s) are experiencing painful sex, infrequent on non-existent orgasms, unreliable erections or unpredictable ejaculations, sexual dysfunction counseling can help you understand and process limiting thoughts, beliefs, behaviors and other stressors that are impacting your sex life. Even if you are experiencing problems related to a congenital, post-surgical or other condition that has resulted in permanent physical impairment, counseling can help ease suffering by working with emotional struggles, acceptance and refocusing on the areas of your sexuality and relationships that need guidance, including nurturing a positive relationship with your body.

During our sex therapy sessions, it’s possible to empathetically and confidentially explore your specific worries. In return, you can expect to receive education, information about medical issues related to sexuality and practical actions to take. I can also coordinate with other medical professionals as needed.

I am deeply committed to honoring and supporting your unique sexual identity, orientation, and expression, and also uphold respect for your cultural, religious, or spiritual values around sexuality. With the guidance of a certified sex therapist, we can bring compassion to your challenges and work toward solutions that are right for you.

You may still have questions or concerns about sex Therapy, such as:

Does any physical contact OR EXPOSURE happen in session?

No, absolutely not, never. Sexuality therapy meetings are not medical exams. They take place in either in a secure online meeting or professional office, like the talk therapy meetings they are. Sex therapy never involves any form of physical contact, nudity or sexual behavior between therapist and individual or coupled clients. While our discussions might be quite frank and descriptive, they will also be professional, respectful and educational.

I’m afraid you’ll judge me.

It’s completely normal to feel uncomfortable or embarrassed in the midst of a sexual issue. Many of my clients have been badly in need of about sexuality but were too afraid to ask, or didn;t know how or what to ask. That’s normal when you don’t know enough about a subject. I assure you that throughout my professional experience as a sex therapist, I’ve worked with countless people of all different backgrounds, religious beliefs, ethnicities and sexual and gender orientations. I’ve worked with people who are sexually inexperienced, extremely high functioning and successful (except for sex) and people exhibiting what they experience as out of control sexual behavior. I am a Lesbian and Gay Affirmative, Poly-Friendly, and Kink-Aware Professional who is committed to providing you with understanding , compassion, reliable information and results. I provide a safe space for all people, identities and relationship structures to explore and pursue what they want from their sexuality.

I’ve seen other providers, and it didn’t help. How will working with you be different?

Surprisingly, most training programs for psychotherapists require only minimal training in human sexuality. If you’ve seen a provider before and it didn’t help, they may not have understood your experience or been qualified to treat you.

Becoming a sex therapist is an extremely credentialed process that involves several years of specific intensive course work, training, supervision, mentoring and approval by experienced members of The American Association of Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) . I have received the proper training and have credentialed as a Certified Sex Therapist since 2011. I am also specially trained to work with self-regulation and relationships of all types. I persistently study new research as it publishes and have training in a wide variety of techniques and modalities.

Throughout our work together, I encourage your feedback and alter our treatment plan according to your goals and comfort. With the right practical, down to earth approach, it’s possible to experience a much more satisfying sex life.

Enjoy A Fulfilling Sex Life

If you have additional questions about sex therapy, sexuality counseling for individuals, sex counseling for couples, sexual dysfunction counseling, out of control sexual behavior, sexual intimacy issues or my practice located in New York. City, I invite you to call 1-929-484-0700, email GracieLandesLMFT@pm.me or just schedule an appointment and I will phone you to introduce myself and chat a bit prior to our meeting. You can also read and subscribe to my sex therapy blog.

I am only working remotely. My mailing address is: 26 Court St #409, Brooklyn NY 11242.

Clients say:

"I feel different and I can't quite put my finger on it, but something has changed in me. I can guarantee you're part of the reason for this change. Maybe it was that kiss I had with my partner a few weeks ago, which makes me even happier to think about because if a kiss can do this, I'm excited for what more than a kiss will bring."