Are You Worried About Your Sex Life?
Are you too embarrassed to talk about intimacy issues with your friends, who all seem to be having the best sex ever?
You might worry that it’s too weird to bring up with your doctor.
Do sexual images from advertisements or movies remind you of your dissatisfaction?
Are you tired of coming up with excuses to avoid having sex because you experience lack of desire, painful intercourse or maybe you can’t orgasm?
- Are you embarrassed that it’s been years since you had partnered sex? Maybe you’re an adult virgin, and you’re afraid to go on dates because you lack experience.
Are you afraid to pursue a relationship because you’re worried that a sexual disorder or having suffered past sexual trauma might be too difficult and could possibly lead to rejection?
Are you LGBTQ+, polyamorous, intersex, asexual, into porn, kink, BDSM, or a form of alt. sex you consider part of a healthy, consensual sexual experience, and don’t want to spend a sex therapy session educating your therapist or being judged by them?
Experiencing a lack of sexual fulfillment during any stage of life can be an isolating, overwhelming and troubling experiencing, regardless of whether you’re single, polyamorous or in a monogamous coupled relationship. When sex just isn’t working, it’s uncomfortable and may even lead you to believe there is something wrong with you.
If you’re single, perhaps you doubt you’ll ever be sexually compatible with someone else. Or, maybe feelings of shame and body or intimacy issues have prevented you from connecting with someone special. If you’re partnered, you may feel disconnected from him/her/them, both emotionally and physically.
If you’ve experienced sexual trauma or assault in the past, that can dramatically alter sex drive, and leave you feeling unsafe, confused or out of control. If your performance and/or enjoyment of sex needs improvement or is affected by a sexual dysfunction or sexual trauma, you may desperately desire new options and a safe way to explore them.
Sexual Intimacy Issues Are Very Common
If you are experiencing problems with intimacy, sexuality or sexual performance, you are not alone. Because the topic of sex is highly stigmatized in the United States -- we are all accustomed to messages about how sexuality should be expressed, as well as the type of sex that’s considered normal—these issues can be challenging to discuss with friends and family. Limited perspectives about sexuality cause countless people to feel ashamed of their desires.
The truth is there are few set criteria for optimal sexuality. It’s very common to experience fluctuations in sexual satisfaction, expression and identity over the course of a lifetime. And, even if you have found someone special, the sex may not always be great. Less than half of all sexual experiences are equally satisfying for each partner. 5-15 percent of sexual encounters between compatible sexual partners is disappointing for at least one partner.
Stress can also impact a wide variety of things, including mental and physical health, which can both affect sex drive—the desire to have sex often plummets during times of high pressure, conflict and/or illness. Some people don't feel aroused until well after starting a sexual activity, and you don't necessarily have to feel intimately connected to have an orgasm.
The good news is that regardless of your age, gender, ethnicity, size, ability, orientation, religion and whatever sexual issues you may be encountering, counseling can help awaken and foster a passion that is uniquely your own.
Sex Therapy for Couples and Individuals Can Help You Realize Your Sexual Potential
While many people feel uncomfortable or embarrassed when they first talk about sexual issues, getting to the root of the problem and working to resolve your pain can not only improve your sex life but can also strengthen the bond in your relationships and improve your overall health and wellbeing. With the guidance of an experienced sex therapist, you can clarify your concerns and their cause and embark on a healthy path toward recovery and joy.
If you and/or your partner(s) are experiencing painful sex, infrequent on non-existent orgasms, unreliable erections or unpredictable ejaculations, sexual dysfunction counseling can help you understand and process limiting thoughts, beliefs, behaviors and other stressors that are impacting your sex life. Even if you are experiencing problems related to a congenital, post-surgical or other condition that has resulted in permanent physical impairment, counseling can help ease suffering by working with emotional struggles, acceptance and refocusing on the areas of your sexuality and relationships that need guidance, including nurturing a positive relationship with your body.
During our sex therapy sessions, it’s possible to empathetically and confidentially explore your specific worries. In return, you can expect to receive education, information about medical issues related to sexuality and practical actions to take. I can also coordinate with other medical professionals as needed.
I am deeply committed to honoring and supporting your unique sexual identity, orientation, and expression, and also uphold respect for your cultural, religious, or spiritual values around sexuality. With the guidance of a certified sex therapist, we can bring compassion to your challenges and work toward solutions that are right for you.
You may still have questions or concerns about sex Therapy…
Does any physical contact happen in session?
No, never. Sexuality therapy meetings are not medical exams. They take place in a professional office and never involve any form of physical contact, nudity or sexual behavior between therapist and client or between coupled clients. While our discussions might be frank, they would also be professional, respectful and educational.
I’m afraid you’ll judge me.
It’s completely normal to feel uncomfortable or embarrassed in the midst of a sexual issue. Many of my clients have badly needed information about sexuality but were too afraid to ask. Let me assure you that throughout my professional experience as a sex therapist, I’ve worked with countless people of all different backgrounds, religious beliefs, ethnicities and sexual and gender orientations. I’ve also worked with people who are sexually inexperienced, extremely high functioning and successful (except for sex) and people exhibiting out of control sexual behavior. I am a Lesbian and Gay Affirmative, Poly-Friendly, and Kink-Aware Professional who is committed to results. Here, I provide a safe space for all to explore and pursue what they want moving forward.
I’ve seen other providers, and it didn’t help. How will working with you be different?
Surprisingly, most training programs for psychotherapists require only minimal training in human sexuality. If you’ve seen a provider before and it didn’t help, they may not have understood your experience or been qualified to treat you.
Becoming a sex therapist is a highly credentialed process that involves several years of specific intensive course work, training, supervision, mentoring and approval by experienced members of The American Association of Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) . I have received the proper training and am credentialed as a Certified Sex Therapist. I am also specially trained to work with self-regulation and relationships of all types. I persistently study new research as it publishes and have training in a wide variety of techniques and modalities.
In addition to having the proper credentials, I provide a warm, humane, hospitable environment for you to openly express and explore your lifestyle, culture and identity. Throughout our work together, I will encourage your feedback and alter our treatment plan according to your goals and comfortability. With the right practical, down to earth approach, it’s possible to take steps toward a more satisfying sex life.
Enjoy A Fulfilling Sex Life
If you have additional questions about sex therapy, sexuality counseling for individuals, sex counseling for couples, sexual dysfunction counseling, out of control sexual behavior, sexual intimacy issues or my practice located in New York, New York, I invite you to click to phone or call 1-917-238-0170, email firstname.lastname@example.org or schedule an appointment. You can also read and subscribe to my sex therapy blog. I offer in-office and remote online therapy options. My office is conveniently located, accessible from most subways (23 and 28th St. stops) PATH trains, Penn Station and Port Authority Bus Terminal.
My Clients say:
"I feel different and I can't quite put my finger on it, but something has changed in me. I can guarantee you're part of the reason for this change. Maybe it was that kiss I had with my partner a few weeks ago, which makes me even happier to think about because if a kiss can do this, I'm excited for what more than a kiss will bring."