Couple Family and Sex Therapy NYC


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Gracie Landes, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist located in Chelsea - the Flatiron District of Manhattan will work with you to build solutions that fit you when you have:

the desire to improve any aspect of your life •  trouble adjusting to a new situation or life transition • conflicts that keeps you from being closer to people you care about • anxiety, lack of information or embarrassment about sex • questions about relationships or sexual health...

and you want to work with someone who is dedicated to providing counseling that is brief, respectful and effective, and to discovering what works


I will be happy to work with you if our schedules and intentions align. Here are answers to the most common questions people ask :

Hours: MON: 12;15-8pm; WEDS: 9 AM -3:30 PM; THURS: 12:15-8PM; FRI: 9 AM-5:45 PM I get booked up fast - check the calendar a day ahead for new openings.

Insurance : Aetna and BCBS only (they decide what you pay, so please ask them)

Fees : (self pay) $250 first session, then $200

Make an appointment (they last 45 minutes): here


If, once you've covered these basics, you decide to work with me, feel free phone to confirm we're a good fit for each other. To learn more, read on:

Meetings are by appointment only. There are many more daytime than evening openings. Please consider coming in during the day. As a solution focused practitioner I am committed to making every single session count. For many issues, one session or a few sessions may well be all it takes to get the results you seek.

I am open to working with you at whatever frequency you would like. Weekly appointments and long term work are certainly options. I just don’t assume they are the only options.

You can go to my online calendar and make an appointment or check to see what’s available. If you want a steady evening appointment, that could be more difficult, but not impossible. Since I allow you to change your appointment time up to 24 hours in advance and don’t require you to commit to a regular meeting time, my schedule changes frequently. If you don't see a time you want, keep checking the calendar - something is likely to open up. You can also let me know times you would like to come in and I will send a notification when I notice one of those times is available.

Register to become a client and once you do, I will call you to introduce myself.

  • Click here to access my online scheduling calendar. Once you are registered you can take any open appointment. Please do write down your password : there is no robot to reset it for you. If you lose it, you will have to wait for me, and I am extremely busy.

  • If you need a particular appointment time, please include that in your information when you fill out your biography in my scheduling system. I will add you to my waitlist for those times, and send an email they open up.

  • I take only Aetna and BCBS employer provided insurance, no others: use this form to call your insurer to check your mental health benefits. Sorry, absolutely no EAPS, no medicaid, no medicare: they will not reimburse you.

  • All meetings last 45 minutes

    I charge $250 for the first and $200 for subsequent private pay appointments

  • I speak English, and understand other languages, but not well enough to conduct therapy in them.

  • I'm located in Chelsea, (Manhattan) at 138 w 25 st between 6th and 7th Aves, easily accessible from any subway that goes to 23rd or 28th St., PATH trains, Penn Station, and Port Authority. Please allow extra travel time for your first visit. As you know, our subways have become quite unpredictable. There are some (expensive) parking garages in the neighborhood. There is no on-street parking until after 7 pm.



I am provide detailed instructions on making appointments and navigating payments, so you don't have to wait to hear back from me about those things. When we talk, we can talk about what you want to work on, not waste time on logistics.

make an appointment or check my schedule

make an in person appointment

If you are making an in person appointment,  just use the red link you see above this paragraph, and  the top and bottom of all the pages on this site. Come in at at the time you scheduled. I will do my best to phone to welcome you and introduce myself before we meet.

make a Remote Appointment

If you live anywhere in New York State  and want to meet online using secure video conferencing, make an appointment  through  the scheduling system, send me a note through the system that  we will be meeting by video. When your appointment time comes, enter my waiting room at  here.


Insurance limits the amount of time I can spend with you to 45 minutes. If you don't see a time slot you need, please check back from time to time,  a spot is likely to open up.

You can choose to pay privately, use your in-network benefits with  Aetna or Blue Cross Blue Shield, or check with on your  out-of network benefits, if you have them. Before you come in please use this form to call your insurer and find out how your mental health benefits work.

Payment is due at the time of the session. I take cash, checks, or, payment cards (when you key in that information when you register to become a client).

 Making an appointment means have accepted your obligation to attend it. Not showing up deprives another person of the slot and me of income. I charge a minimum of $90 for missed appointments. Please don't do it.

decide what's right for you

Insurers will not pay for purely sexual or couples' issues in the absence of another diagnosis. In my experience, most relationship or sexual issues don't need a long time to resolve. Sexual issues lend themselves very well to short term therapy (1-6 sessions). Couples issues, as well, do not require many sessions if you are willing to try and do new things between sessions and focus on making improvements.

I assume you want to succeed, and provide you with experiments to try and  tools to support your success. It may be worthwhile to pay privately and use your session time wisely.

You should know that using your mental health benefits requires you to have a diagnosis and will create a written record of your visit.  Insurance companies are increasing the amount of scrutiny they subject psychotherapy to: reviewing patient records, denying claims. The only way to completely protect  your privacy is to pay privately and not use insurance. I spell this out so you can be aware of your options and choose what works best for you and your situation. Whatever that is, I encourage you to do what's right for you, and respect your decision.

- standard 45 minute sessions : $200

- first sessions  $250

I charge at least $90  for missed appointments (including first appointments) and same day cancellations.



Many therapists no longer accept insurance because it of the many difficulties and limitations involved. I still accept some insurance as a courtesy to my clients, but I may have stop taking insurance because of the I can not afford to waste time when clients fail to call their insurer before coming in. You can prevent that, and avoid paying more than you expected, by making a 5 minute phone call to you insurer using the questions on this form. 

The company that covers your medical benefits may well not cover mental health benefits. So, please  call the number on the back of your card.  Here's that form, again. Please use it. Find out who covers your mental health benefits, and how your policy works. I can't do it for you. I want you to have a the best possible  experience in therapy with no surprises, like having to switch to to another provider because you didn't check ahead of time.  I will hold you responsible for any fees your insurance company does not cover. 


I accept  Aetna and BCBS,only. That’s it.  Please confirm with your insurer that your mental health benefits are covered by them; or, if it's another company, how your policy with them works. I can bill Aetna and BCBS directly. I ask that you pay me your copayment, coinsurance and /or fee that applies to your deductible each time you come in. AETNA and BCBS (not me) set the fee you pay. 

Sorry, I do not do EAP work.


I publish my fees so you can figure out ahead of time how your arrangement with your insurer works.  In some cases I can bill your insurance directly. I am also happy to provide the receipt you need to be reimbursed.

While your out-of-network insurer might attempt to reimburse at a rate other than my full fee,  I expect to be paid my full fee. That means you will be responsible to pay whatever your insurer doesn't.  


If after having read about how I work in general, and/or how I work with relationships, how I work with sexual issues or how I work with stress you still have questions, feel free phone me at 917-238-0170,  introduce yourself and let me know what you want to work on, so we can get a sense of how we might work together.  Otherwise, feel free go ahead and  to book a session.

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