IF you're sick of feeling stuck, stressed ouT and ineffective
People also come to psychotherapy to ease their suffering without realizing how much of it comes from trying to control things that can’t be controlled. These attempts at control keep you from noticing what is in your power to change, and the many possibilities that are available to you.
There REALLY are some simple things you can learn
Using simple exercises and concepts designed to lessen suffering by increasing awareness, you can become more fully aware and open to your own thoughts, emotions, sensations and experiences. You can develop the ability to accept whatever comes your way dispassionately and with equanimity and face challenges head on.
While this fearless attitude can leave you more open to discomfort because you will actually experience your feelings as they arise, you can also move through those feelings more quickly. There are a variety of safe, effective mind-body practices that can help free you to become aware of options and opportunities you miss when you dissipate your energy worrying about, avoiding or protesting what life brings you. You can become more able to change, make good choices and handle difficulties effectively.
To those with existing contemplative practices who would like to know about my background, I have been practicing Zen Buddhism, mindfulness and Iyengar Yoga for many years.
THESE Resources are a great supplement to what you'll learn in therapy
My clients have found the resources below helpful:
- these videos from the Mindfulness Mediation NY Collaborative provide a good overview of the human stress response and how you can create your own relaxation response
- this podcast with Richard Brown PhD. explains the benefits of breathing for stress reduction and healing from trauma
- Find Your Meditation Style from Yoga Journal
- Wildmind describes different types of meditation, including a mindfulness of breathing, lovingkindness, and a walking meditation
- Contemplative Mind in Life links for guided meditation practices
- Headspace provides a variety of meditations, an app and online community
- mindfulness solutions from Dr. Ron Siegel
- Stop, Breathe & Think (iOS and android)
- Midshift (iOS and android)
- Happify (iOS)
Here's some unsolicited feedback:
I've gained a deep understanding about true communication, how to negotiate conflict and boundaries...how to work on my reactions. I've also gotten into meditation and doing more yoga, I've found them tremendously useful as well. If I don't do meditation for too many days in a row, I'm suddenly more testy, quicker to react, etc. I think it's connected! I'm happy that we've been able to work through everything, and really get to a place of understanding and solid foundation. Thanks for everything you offered me!